Ladies, this article is dedicated to you and your blissful ability to achieve outstandingly fantastic orgasms! While we know that the majority of women are more prone to climax via clitoral stimulation, we also know that the g-spot is a very real and very extraordinary location inside the vagina that was created simply for your pleasure.
The thing about the g-spot however, is that some women (and men) may find it hard to locate. They perhaps don’t have the knowledge or the tools in which to stimulate it until a climatic g-spot orgasm is reached. But that’s all about to change…
Today, you’re going to learn all about the g-spot! Where to find it, how to stimulate it using different methods and techniques, as well as different tools to use that’ll hit the spot. Ready to change the face of your orgasm as you know it? Let’s go for gold, ladies!
The ‘g’ in ‘g-spot’ stands for Gräfenberg, after German gynaecologist, Eric Gräfenberg, who discovered this sensitive region in the 1940’s. It wasn’t until 1981 that this area was recognized as a pleasure spot however.
It was Dr Beverly Whipple, a sexologist and professional author, who stumbled upon a life-changing discovery. She realized that, when the ‘come hither’ motion was used inside the vagina, climax could be achieved. She then deduced that this is how women orgasm during penetrative vaginal sex.
So, what is the g-spot exactly? It is a magical little area that is part of the clitoral network. Confused? Well, the clitoris is actually a lot larger than many believe. It’s not just what we see and touch, the small nub-like part of the female anatomy that gets women all riled up! The clitoris actually has two root-like structures, each around four inches in length. These roots can’t be seen, yet when the g-spot is stimulated, parts of them are stimulated too.
As we’ve established, you can’t actually see the g-spot. This may lead some to believe that it doesn’t exist. With a little self-exploration however, you’ll be able to change the myth and experience better, stronger orgasms.
The g-spot is located at the roof of the vagina, about two to three inches inside. For women, the best way to find the g-spot at first, is to set aside a bit of ‘me time,’ aka solo play. This is because women know their bodies best, and what they are and are not comfortable with.
Once a woman knows where and how to stimulate the g-spot, and the best way to stimulate it, it’ll prove an invaluable form of play with a partner. The catch is, it’s more difficult for a woman to reach the g-spot by herself, using her fingers. For that reason, a toy is the best option when it comes to DIY (more on that later…).
The g-spot generally feels different from other tissue inside the vagina. It’s slightly rougher, almost rigid, to the touch compared to the rest of the area, which is smoother.
When the g-spot is stimulated, a woman may feel as though they need to urinate. And while this does mean that the right spot is being stimulated, it may not translate to sexual arousal and orgasm. When a woman feels a pleasurable sensation, that’s when the magic happens. It is also at this point that some women admit to squirting (female ejaculation).
Tip: squirting and climaxing are not the same thing. According to Yvonne K. Fulbright, PhD:
“G-spot stimulation is often encouraged in exploring one’s potential to squirt since the ejaculation often occurs when a woman is peaking—not necessarily climaxing–during g-spot play.”
On the flip side, not all women respond the same to different kinds of stimulation. This is important to remember as not to feel despondent if a g-spot orgasm isn’t reached. Practice makes perfect though, so we encourage women to keep on playing.
Going for the g-spot is recommended when you’re feeling aroused. This is because blood rushes to the pelvic region, and causes the tissue to swell, making it easier to stimulate. To induce arousal, you can light some candles, watch a sexy movie or porn, read erotica, listen to a dirty podcast, or… whatever does it for you!
Using your fingers: If you’d like to use fingers to reach an orgasm via the g-spot, you’ll want to insert your finger or fingers into the vagina, curving them so that they’re pointed towards your belly button. You’re not going to want to use the ‘in and out’ motion, but rather the ‘come hither’ motion, repeatedly, whilst inside.
If you’re not a fan of using your fingers, or you’re having a hard time stimulating the area, you could opt for a non-vibrating g-spot stimulator (like the Njoy Fun Wand). This will allow you to feel more pressure, which in turn could cause a more pleasurable response.
Using a sex toy: Using a g-spot vibrator is another excellent way in which to stimulate the g-spot. There are several kinds of g-spot vibrators that have been created with a curve to successfully reach this pleasure zone. (See our list of g-spot vibrators below.)
Using his/her fingers: Once you’ve found your g-spot and or are ready for some partner play, it’s actually easier for a partner to stimulate the area, and they can do so using the same method as during solo play time.
Another bonus of having a partner to help out with g-spot stimulation using their fingers is the fact that you can experiment with different positions. For example, fingers entering the vagina from behind.
Using a sex toy: Using a g-spot vibrator solo or with a partner is always a fun way to pass the time. The best way to engaging in g-spot stimulation with someone else however, is to first find out what you like. In this way, you can direct them in such a way that you can simply relax and enjoy the ride, hands-free.
G-spot stimulation during sex: G-spot stimulation is definitely possible during sex, and the position in which you enjoy can make a big impact on whether a g-spot orgasm is experienced.
Cowgirl: The cowgirl position involves the man lying on his back with the woman climbing on top and straddling him. In this way, the woman can control several different aspects, including the way in which her g-spot is stimulated. In general, a woman sat at a 45-degree angle produces the best results.
Doggy Style: Many women enjoy doggy style sex because it offers deep penetration. It’s also a great position in which to target different angles when it comes to g-spot stimulation. For the best results, a woman can put most of her weight on her forearms with her hips pushed backwards.
Spooning Sex: This position is perfect for reaching the location of the g-spot. During spooning sex, the man will be the big spoon, leaning more forward, while the woman is the small spoon, pushing back into him. We also recommend this sex position because it’s an easy access point for clitoral stimulation.
A g-spot orgasm will feel different for every woman, but many women claim that it’s a powerful climax that they’re happy to have discovered. Fulbright weighs in by saying:“Some people describe a warm, flushing feeling throughout their genitals and body,” and that “others say they become a lot wetter.”
You’ll also be interested to know that women experience different kinds of stimulation, depending on their menstrual cycle. To end off, we thought we’d add in a bit of extra information as an incentive to get you going! The g-spot isn’t going to stimulate itself, after all…
A wearable g-spot massager that’s app-controlled and has LED lighting to provide your (long distance) partner with visuals.
An ebb and flow of pleasurable waves, this g-spot vibrator mimics the ‘come hither’ motion.
A temperature-controlled g-spot pleasure product that’s curved with precision to stimulate.
A dual-motor vibrator, ELISE 2 is sensual, luxurious, and curved for your very best climax.
This toy is easy to hold, allowing you to control it with ease. It’s a sculptured g-spot stimulator with curves in all the right places.
For an additional boost, there are sex toys available for a blended orgasm, aka a clitoral and a g-spot orgasm. Check out these four winners:
A beautifully-designed rabbit-style vibrator that gives you the best of both worlds. It’s waterproof and comes with two individual motors.
A g-spot stimulation toy that flexes with movement, allowing contact with the clitoris at all times. You’ll surely never miss a beat with Nova.
An award-winning dual vibrator, the Duo uses Pleasure Air Technology for clitoral stimulation and a curved vibrator to massage your other pleasure zone, simultaneously.
This toy from Fun Factory pulses and thrusts using a combination of 64 pulsations and vibrations. It has fluttering wings that sit against the labia, is shaped to massage the g-spot, and offers powerful clitoral stimulation.
And thus, we conclude our sex education lesson and list of tips and tricks to help you achieve your very best g-spot orgasm. Your homework? It’s simple, and it’s fun… go home and play! Happy g-spot climaxing.